Rambling

Life can be so frustrating at times. Why can't it just be simple? Why can't people just be happy? Why does it seem like it costs so much to just be happy? That shouldn't be expensive. I'm not talking about material things. That is just a facade. That isn't true happiness. I'm not even sure if I know what true happiness is, but I know what it isn't. It isn't busting your ass off in a job to make someone else money and just making enough to get your bills paid. It isn't going to get you anywhere, not that you would even know where anywhere is. Why is everything about money? I just want to be with my baby and enjoy whatever time I have left in this lifetime. I don't care if I have a one room hut and have to bathe in a stream, lake, river, ocean. I don't care. I think I have earned that right. I don't need a fancy car, big house, satellite tv., or any other materialistic garbage that is thrown in our faces our whole lifetime. I don't want it. Simple is what I want. Peaceful and simple. Aaaaaahhhhhh.......wouldn't that be nice!

Men fall in love with their eyes, women with their ears.

How very different we are, no wonder there is confusion in relationships. To fault the other for something that is part of their gender should be ridiculous, yet we tend to do just that. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, which will make this an "in general" post. I can only speak from a woman's point of view, so if there are any men out there that come across this post and would like to shed some light on a man's perspective, then please do so.

As I have been a bartender for half of my life, part of my job description has been to listen to the customers. You have to be somewhat of a therapist, and I have listened to thousands of relationship issues. With women, 99% of the time their issue is that they feel their significant other has lost his romanticism. Somewhere along the line, it just seemed to disappear. Which in turn leaves the woman feeling many different things such as; disappointed, confused, hurt, angry, neglected, and so forth. She doesn't understand what has happened to cause this change. She wonders what she did or what she said that would have made him stop being romantic. She tells me that things used to be so different. He used to tell her how beautiful she is, how sexy she is. He used to send her flowers for no reason or special occasion. He used to take her hand every time they walked together. He used to just hold her. Whatever it was that he used to do, he no longer is doing it.

A woman wants her man to remember the things he used to do for her and continue to do those things throughout their entire relationship. She feels that he should know what those things are and he should do them because he loves her and wants to make her happy. He shouldn't have to be asked or prodded to do them, that will change the whole significance of them. They will not mean that much to her anymore. The whole point is that she wants him to want to do it. And if he starts thinking of it as a "chore" then the meaning is lost and the woman will just begin to accept the idea that he isn't attracted to her any longer. Generally, they will continue to go through the motions of their relationship. They will become comfortable in their lives. They continue with the same routine day after day after day. But inside, the woman is yearning for that romanticism, longing to hear the words that make her feel special, needing to hear that he is always wanting her.

At this point in their relationship any compliment she receives outside of this relationship will make her feel special. She will gravitate towards that, even though she wants it to be from her man. She does this not because she is wanting a relationship with this other person, but because she needs to feel special to someone. She needs to hear that someone finds her beautiful, sexy, desirable. Many many times this has been the cause of the ending of a once beautiful relationship. Sad, isn't it...

To infinity and beyond baby...

She awakens with a smile on her face. Her first thoughts are of him, as they always are. He is in her thoughts through her waking hours, as well as her sleeping ones. She feels him throughout her entire being. She wants to be with him , needs to be with him. She can feel his arms around her holding her close, never wanting to let her go. The love they have for each other binds them together, even through the distance between them. Although they have never physically met they share with each other completely. Their love is greater than anything she has ever known. He completes her.



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